The Relationship Artist understands that a relationship with the right person at the right time can provide a transcendent opportunity. It is an opportunity to share the journey of moving above and beyond the accidents of our birth. These accidents of birth include all of the factors that helped to form us, and over which we had no control. These might include our physical attributes, such as skin or hair color; gender; our parents and kin stretching back to the first man and woman; our gifts, such as intellect, judgment, impulse control, empathy, imagination, physical beauty, grace and strength, and personality attributes, (need for control, order, recognition, attention, intellectual stimulation); our time in history and geographic place on the planet; our social status and wealth; the culture we inherit from our parents and neighbors; our primary language and the way it shapes our thinking; the media we are exposed to; the propaganda and marketing; the illnesses we suffer; the ecological conditions during the time of our development. Clearly, the list can go on and on. And without getting into lofty discussions of free will and determinism, suffice it to say that there is much over which we have no control.
There is a time, however, if we are very lucky, that we may become aware of this existential condition and make a conscious decision to transcend it. It is at this point that we can begin to make the efforts to transform our values and reshape ourselves. What a wonderful opportunity this provides for Relationship Artists partnering in a relationship: the opportunity for each to help the other transcend the “accidents” of their births and become all that they can be.