Discussion of Ingrid Bergman’s Quote for Relationship Artists

Relationship Arts, Bergman and Bogart

Bergman and Bogart in Casablanca

“A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous.” Ingrid Bergman

In relationships, actions usually speak much louder than words. Communications researcher Albert Mehrabian has famously suggested that in our efforts to understand the feelings and attitudes associated with a communication, we are 55% dependent on facial expression, 38% dependent on tone, and only 7% dependent on words. He somehow neglected to include the information that’s contained in a kiss, a communication form all to itself. More powerful than a speeding bullet, able to leap tall buildings in a single bound. You could never describe it to a non-human alien… “Well, two people put their faces real close, then they shape their lips in some kind of way so that…. oh, never mind.” It’s like trying to tell a stranger about rock and roll. But it does somehow convey to each partner the whole story of their life together. That quick. Uh, huh. Got it.

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