{"id":198,"date":"2011-01-10T10:54:40","date_gmt":"2011-01-10T15:54:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/themaritalarts.com\/?p=198"},"modified":"2011-02-07T20:18:44","modified_gmt":"2011-02-08T01:18:44","slug":"what-are-we-committing-to","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/relationshiparts.com\/?p=198","title":{"rendered":"What are we committing to?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>We don&#8217;t go to school for committed, intimate relationship. If we were ever asked the question, \u201cWhy are you doing this?\u201d we answered, \u201cBecause we love each other and we want to spend our lives together,\u201d which on the face of it, is a very good answer. But how many of us share an understanding of what love is? And besides, it&#8217;s pretty clear at this point that we can love each other without making a commitment. What is the commitment? What are we committing to? What does this commitment really mean for our life together?<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<h2><!-- p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal { margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12pt; font-family: Times; }div.Section1 { page: Section1; } --><\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_205\" style=\"width: 310px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><a rel=\"attachment wp-att-205\" href=\"http:\/\/relationshiparts.com\/?attachment_id=205\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-205\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-205\" title=\"The Lovers by Rene Magritte\" src=\"http:\/\/themaritalarts.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/01\/Rene-Magritte1-300x199.jpg\" alt=\"The Lovers by Rene Magritte\" width=\"300\" height=\"199\" srcset=\"https:\/\/relationshiparts.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/01\/Rene-Magritte1-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/relationshiparts.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/01\/Rene-Magritte1.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-205\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">The Lovers by Rene Magritte<\/p><\/div>\n<p><a title=\"Discussion of Magritte Quote\" href=\"http:\/\/themaritalarts.com\/?page_id=203\" target=\"_self\">&#8220;Life obliges me to do something, so I paint.&#8221; Rene Magritte<\/a><\/h2>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>How about this: We are committed to helping each other define, pursue and achieve the best life possible; we are committed to helping each other grow and actualize ourselves in every possible way; we will each commit to becoming everything we can be, and to helping <em>each other<\/em> become everything we can be. We will help each other grow morally and spiritually, sexually, materially and socially; we will help each other become the best parents, grandparents, friends and citizens; we will support each other in pursuit of our passions; we will help each other master our demons. We will develop skills and engage in a process that strives always to be loving and respectful. 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